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Dealing with getting dumped..... how sad !!!

As I'm sure you're saving the world or some woman in it, I thought I'd send you an email instead of calling and interrupting your endeavours. I've spent a lot of my time lately, thinking, especially yesterday, a day off. Besides the normal every day things, I wanted to actually send you this email and tell you some things from my heart. As to why I'm telling you, it's basically so twenty years from now I don't have to say, "I wish I'd said..."
For what it's worth, I am deeply, deeply disappointed in you as a person, and never have so few words cost me so much. For pride's sake, I refrain from breaking down in tears in front of you and humiliating myself any further, thus the email. And despite my telling you how much I don't care that you have treated me so badly, I do. I used to let things go and people go if they hurt me, but I don’t think that it’s fair to just ignore the hurt and to let it go anymore, as you need to know how you affect people’s lives, mine especially. If all the things you said to me about wanting to be “exclusive” with me, were true, you would not treat me the way you have, so perhaps it means that you say this to all the woman in your life and that’s why there are so many vying for your attention and wanting to spend time with you. I abhor liars, and people that lie about their feelings and life and especially where there are feelings involved. I have always been honest with you. I trusted you and that is not easy to admit, but you know that I don’t play games. I am such an idiot! But in all this, I do have to thank you, for showing me that I am still such a novice in the “love” game. I treat people the way I want to be treated, that to me constitutes a good person, someone with integrity. Believing in you has made a fool out of me.

As far as I’m concerned if you’re in an “exclusive relationship”, unless thousands of miles separate you or you have had your tongue cut our or are in a coma, don’t go down this route, the non- contact route. You make the effort to speak to the person that you have asked to be part of your life regularly, so that you don’t humiliate them by your silence? You also spend time with them and even if you have other friends, you introduce the person to those friends/family. Not ignore them and push them aside for the next best thing or flavour of the week.

So I learnt a new life lesson, thank you! Only you are learning nothing because as long as you are happy and things go according to your law and your schedule, you seem content. I think the point you are missing in all of this is the hurt you are inflicting on people. If you can do this to me and say those things to me, you are probably saying them to the other woman too. You are also missing the point of the instability you are causing in your son’s life. A gift, a very precious gift, that was lent to you by God, does not deserve the inconsistency of all the female’s you parade in front of him, perhaps that is why he is insecure.

I know that you want me to say goodbye, because there is a shallowness in you that believes all is good in the world if you give out snippets of your time here and there to whoever deserves it at that time., and if you ignore me long enough I will go away. And you don’t want confrontation. So I don’t kid myself that while I sit at home and wonder where you are, what you are doing and who you are doing it with, that you actually give a dam. I do care and I am hurt and disappointed, but not angry. I guess I am just following your example now. I guess you don’t want to drag this out, anymore than I do, the hurt would just be that much more intense…………………..Good Luck……..